I just got diagnosed with genital herpes today. I'm 23 and have been with my boyfriend for about 9 months. Prior to this I had no other problems but thrush occasionally in that area. In fact when I first got this was just after we'd had sex last week and I actually thought it was nothing more than a bout of thrush. But it got more and more painful, until I started to feel really achy and fluey and could feel this strange lump down there and an odd discharge.
I thought I'd hurt myself from too vigorous sex and talked to my boyfriend about it. We both figured there was no way it could be an STI as we'd both tested just after getting together and had been clean. I've had a few partners in the past but have always been careful. I just went to the clinic thinking they'd tell me it was a tear that had got infected and I'd be given antibiotics or something. When they told me what it was I was so shocked, I couldn't stop crying. It was always something I was terrified of catching and now here I am.
I told my boyfriend and he was calm about it. I think he feels that as he's had no symptoms its most likely a previous partner from my past who'd given it to me. I don't know what to think. The most sex I've had in life has been with him and we've never used condoms. He told me that the last girl he'd been with had herpes but as he'd never had symtoms it was nothing to worry about. I believed him then but find myself questioning it now. But as I'm the one with the symptoms now it feels as if I'm the guilty party. The people at the clinic tell me it was likely him who gave it to me. I don't know how to tell him this in case he gets angry.
He said he'd call me later but he hasn't. I feel terrible, not just ill and sore but really worried he'll leave.
Sorry for the rant :roll: