You've got me doing a bit of constructive reflection on this one !
Firstly, despite the fact that I'm a compulsive poster, I really do appreciate your comments because they raise the issue of whether we allow a negative mindset to dominate our thoughts, and I think it's good to be challenged on this level. Under normal circumstances, everyone is expected to remain upbeat about difficult situations. We all know that its unproductive to hold on to a negative mindset and how that would affect the general mood of everyone we encounter. A counter reaction is only to be expected. That's the balancing equation......A no-hope depressing attitude deserves a sharp rebuttal. Totally acceptable and it also helps to focus the issue on why that negative mindset becomes dominant in the first place. And why, knowing that it is socially unacceptable, do C/S sufferers seem to allow it to dominate their overview of themselves.
Tricky issues indeed, but issues not to be ignored nonetheless. So, thanks for raising it. Unlike the first poster who was 'miraculously' 'cured', you at least have raised a question which should be commented on sensibly. I, personally, love this stuff and all the underlying denials and webs of intrigue which we use to justify our attitudes. There's no doubt that people with C/S inevitably drift into a negative mindset, despite any attempts to talk it up. As an onlooker, and someone who has had close experience of the C/S condition, you have spotted this problem. And, as a regular poster here, myself, I admit it ! So, where do we go from here ?
The big question is this \" Is it justifiable to portray your situation negatively ?\". Surely that's bound to put readers off. Even I would say no, its not justifiable, because it contradicts what general society expects....stay upbeat at all costs ! Perhaps the nature of the C/S condition, with all its ever repeating symptoms, for most sufferers, gradually wears down our optimism and we can only communicate satisfactorally with what's left. That sounds more like it to me, but it also says that perhaps a greater effort, to balance the negativity, should be made.
Thats fine, we all (almost all) try to do this. There is one difficult hurdle, however, and that is that we don't want to understate, or 'lighten up', the difficulties we encounter because, behind it all, we are searching for new ways to deal with them on a practical level. We don't want to pretend that everythings 'ok' because that would devalue our desire for improvement. Make sense ?
Obviously, its finding a balance that matters here. Once again I have to say that having the issue raised by an 'outsider' is very welcome and I hope that other posters will join in and have their say. It is important that we don't get stuck in a downward spiral of describing ever increasing symptoms to each other, and endlessly milking the sympathies of our fellow sufferers. There's only so much to go round !
Maybe, you've unsuspectingly opened a big can of worms !
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